How You're Lying To Yourself (And How To Fix It)

Most people have a lot more time than they're willing to admit, a lot more time than they say they have.

You have more time than you think you do.

But let's look at some examples.

Let's say your friend says, "man, I don't have time. I can't learn another language. I can't exercise. I don't have the time."

But you know your friend, you know that's not true.

You know that they're spending one, two, three, four hours on social media, five hours on Fortnite, six hours on Call of Duty or something.

They do have time, right?

Or what about your co-worker who says they don't have time, but you know they were pretty loud with their conversation for 45 minutes with their co-worker just talking about God knows what.

Do you really not have time?

But honestly, the worst of it is when you say that, do you honestly not have time?

Disclaimer: if you're a parent, ignore all this, I don't know what's going on with you.

That's a completely fucked-up situation.

So, ignore this.

(But if you want to save time with your day-to-day exercise, check out the Balanced Body Blueprint to find out how.)

Imagine: let's say you have a job.

You commute, you get home at 7:30.

You have to do the hygiene stuff, eating, all that stuff that takes up, let's just say, an hour and a half.

So, now it's nine.

Let's say you got to wake up early.

You sleep at 10 or 11.

Let's just say you have just an hour of free time per day because you're so busy, let's just say.

What you spend that hour doing is really important when you say, "I don't have time."

What most people mean when they say, "I don't have time" is "I don't want to spend the time I have doing blank, blank, blank."

That's what they really mean.

Most people have the time.

Again, parents don't pitch in the comments.

I understand your lives are different, but for the average person, you do have a lot more time than you think you do.

Let's take this.

Go back to the example.

One hour free per day.

You can put that toward language learning, exercising, reading, getting some kind of knowledge, getting some kind of good enjoyment, just taking a jog or something, just talking with your spouse, anything, right?

Or you could spend an hour jerking off, leveling up on Fortnite, browsing Reddit, watching people die, whatever.

It could be any number of things.

You do have the time.

It's a matter of how it's being used though.

Now, most people are not honest with themselves.

They say, "I don't have time."

What they mean is, "My time, I want to spend it in a different way."

Let's say you have that hour a day, and since a year has 365 days, let's say you have 365 free hours per year.

When you put it that way, it kind of sounds like a lot, right?

We're not even counting weekends here, which can add dozens, hundreds more hours per year, right?

Let's just say one hour because you're really busy, right?

Now, if you put those hours to something else, like language learning, exercising, doing anything that's helpful for you, then you can feel like, "Wow, there's so much time I actually have."

But if you use those spare hours to, I don't know, scroll, scroll, scroll, scroll, scroll, then yeah, it seems like you don't have much time, right?

Because all that time wasted went down the drain.

So, now you think, "Oh, the time is gone. I just don't have time," even though you just sank that time into doing something completely useless that you won't remember or care about tomorrow.

Now, for me, this came into play when just about a year and a change ago, I dropped a lot of habits that weren't helping me, like, for example, porn, a lot of video game stuff.

I've actually recently gotten a bit more into gaming, but that's more like a puzzle type of thing, not like playing an RPG of hundreds of hours or whatever.

But the point is at a certain time, I dropped all these things that usually took up my time, and what I realized when I did that is, I have so much extra time in the day when I'm not doing certain other things.

There's several more hours in the day that I can do things.

And you realize that most people, they drain their time away by doing completely useless stuff that they will not care about tomorrow, much less next week, much less next year.

Completely useless stuff.

I'm not saying you can't spend your time doing stuff that is completely useless if it's enjoyable to you.

What I'm saying is you cannot use that as an excuse to say, "I don't have time."

You do have time.

You just have to be honest with yourself and say, "I have a certain amount of time, and I want to spend it a certain way that's not memorable or helpful."

If you want to do that, it's okay.

But do not say you don't have time.

That's not true.

You definitely have time.

You have at least 300 hours per year.

Do you know how much stuff you can do with that?

Do you know how many languages and books you can read with that time?

It's a lot.

But if you don't want to do that, it's fine.

Just don't say you don't have time.

Say you don't have the drive to do something else.

That's it.

But you do have the time.

😈 DEVIL’S ADVOCACY 😈

• "I don't have time to exercise." (Actually, tracking your calories can take just 10 seconds.)

• "I can't learn a new language; I'm too busy." (An hour a day adds up to 365 hours a year, plenty of time to learn something new.)

• "I don't have time for self-care." (You probably have the time if you cut down on unproductive bullshit.)

WHAT'S IN IT FOR ME?

• You'll realize you have more time than you think.

• You’ll have reduced stress from better time management.

• You’ll make better use of your time, which can lead to self-improvement.

ACTION STEPS:

1. Track your daily activities for one week.

2. Identify unproductive timewasters.

3. Set aside at least one hour a day to a productive or enjoyable activity.

4. Be honest with yourself about why you’re not using your time effectively.

5. Make small changes to optimize your schedule. It’s gotta be sustainable.

Okay, bye!